Practical Tip: Setting the date

The purpose of this blog is not to talk about my wedding specifically, but I want to share some thoughts I have about how we set our wedding date and the effect it had on our WPP.  We got engaged in May 2011, and are getting married in April 2012.  We chose the month purely on personal preference (April isn't too hot, isn't too cold, and gave us an 11 month engagement, which seemed right for us, see below for more about that), but it turned out there were a ton of unexpected benefits that we didn't anticipate.  If you haven't yet set your date, I urge you to consider the following.

Prices

Since we're not getting married in prime wedding months, there are three words we grew to love.  off season discount.  We were able to negotiate on the contract with the venue, and found that prices were generally lower for off season months.  From what I've seen an off season wedding can save you 5-10% off the total cost of your wedding.

Availability
This was a HUGE deal for us.  Let's just say we're not exactly on the ball when it comes to booking our vendors and planning decor for the wedding.  Let's be honest, we fell off the ball months ago.  Compared to other engaged couples we are way behind in planning (Side Practical Tip: It's rarely helpful to compare your WPP with other engaged couples).  Most people had everything set months before the wedding.  But here we are, less than two months to go, with vendors yet to book.  And you know what?  So far it's worked out fine for us because we're not getting married in a super desirable month.  We were able to book a DJ three months before with no problem, and we've rarely, if ever, encountered a vendor that didn't have an availability on our date.  It is wonderful to not have to stress about finding a vendor ASAP and not being worried that they will get booked up before you can sign a contract.  I can't stress enough how this has helped us stay relatively zen-like.

Length of engagement
When I started college, I tried to be as diligent as possible in finishing assignments.  I would start on them as soon as they were assigned with plans to finish them early and then be able to relax as the due-date approached.  What would happen instead is that I would work all week, and still end up working until the last minute.  By senior year I got wise and waited until the last minute to even start.  I found I was able to finish assignments on time with the same quality as before!  Wow, why did it take me so long for me to learn this?!  It was then when I learned first hand that it's true: Work expands to the amount of time allotted to it.
If we had a 2 year engagement, it would take us 24 months to plan our wedding for sure.  That's 24 months of interviewing vendors, choosing decorations, and researching flowers.  That's way too long for me!  11 months of this shenanigans is plenty for me, thank you!

So there ya go, how a largely uninformed decision turned out to be exactly perfect for us and helped us on the road to Zen Wedding Planning.

Zen Wedding Planning

Hello, internet land.  I am currently a bride-to-be in the final stages of wedding planning who has managed to stay 98% sane through my wedding planning process (we'll talk about that remaining 2% at a later date).  There are a million wedding planning resources out there, a few of which I've actually found useful for inspiration or ideas (and countless ones that I found rather useless, to put it kindly), but I haven't found anything that gives real advice for real people on how to minimize freakouts and let you live your life while planning a wedding, which is what I aim to do here.



Between my fiance and me, we have two 40+ hour/week jobs, two long commutes, a dog to care for...and, oh yea -- friends and family that we like to see, hobbies we like to enjoy, and plenty other non-wedding related aspects of our life.  We are having an average size, vaguely traditional wedding, and didn't want planning it to become a part time job.  Now that our engagement is 80% over, I've isolated 5 main steps to our wedding planning process that have helped us stay sane while still planning a hopefully rockin' event:

1. Getting in the right mindset - entering the wedding planning process (WPP) with the right expectations

2. Prioritize - understanding what is important for you for your wedding

3. Organize - using the most effective tools to get shit done

4. Splurge - being impractical and indulgent on a few items that are important to you

5. Pace - focusing on a few tasks at once

In the upcoming posts I will explain what each of these things mean, why they were important to us, and how we achieved them.  I would also love to hear about other people's experience keeping their sanity while planning a wedding!

I guess this first post should also come with some caveats.  First, I don't claim to be some amazing wedding planner.  I think our wedding is going to be a sweet ceremony followed by an awesome party, but certainly nothing you would find featured in a style blog or Bridal magazine.  And that's fine with me (I'll expand on this in my next post).  I do claim to be able to plan (along with my fiance) a wedding without going nuts, and without having to drop everything else in your life to do so.

Second, my fiance and I still have a ton of planning to do.  I'm pretty sure we're in the single digits for number of weeks until our wedding, and we are still missing some semi-large pieces of the wedding puzzle.  For example, we don't have flowers.  Or a wedding offiant.  So, actually, it seems like I'm a pretty crummy wedding planner.

You should definitely follow this blog.  You will either get a ton of great advice on planning a wedding, or will be entertained as fiance and I crash and burn in the final weeks leading up to ours, followed by entertaining yet horrifying stories of what happens when you take on the WPP so arrogantly.